Over the years, living in France has taught me invaluable life lessons — from approaching style and travel to embracing beauty, lifestyle, and ageing gracefully.
I first came to France more than 30 years ago, fully expecting to stay for just one year. But life, as it often does, had a different plan. What was meant to be a short adventure gradually became something deeper: France became my home. It’s where I raised my family, retrained first as a teacher and later as a stylist and life coach. It’s also the place that shaped the way I see beauty, style, and even the rhythm of everyday life.
When I arrived, I didn’t speak the language — but surprisingly, that wasn’t the hardest part. What challenged me most were the ‘repères‘ — the cultural reference points that everyone here seemed to share and I didn’t. The nursery rhymes every French child knows by heart, the TV shows people grew up watching, the jokes, habits, rituals, and unspoken rules that make a culture feel like a universe of its own. Those were the moments when I felt most “foreign”… and the moments that, slowly, taught me the most.
Over three decades later, France has become the country where I feel most at home. It’s a place that taught me to value rituals, to appreciate quality over quantity, and to find beauty in the understated. It softened my ambition and strengthened my voice.
France isn’t just where I live – it’s where I forged my deepest friendships, discovered a slower rhythm of living, and learned to appreciate the beauty in rituals: shared meals, weekend markets, daily walks, quiet mornings. It taught me that style, travel, beauty, ageing, and even ambition take on a different meaning when viewed through the lens of a culture that values presence over pressure, elegance over excess, and living well over living fast.
Life Lessons from Living in France: Style, Travel, Beauty, Lifestyle, and Ageing Gracefully
France has taught me to pay attention — to the way a scarf is tied, to the joy of a well-set table, to the art of conversation, and to the subtle luxury of slowing down. And in many ways, these lessons have shaped not only how I live, but also how I write, create, and share here on The Velvet Runway. And today, as the blog evolves into its next chapter, I want to share the insights France has given me — the ones that continue to guide my work, my writing, and my approach to life
What Living in France Has Taught Me About Style
When I arrived, I followed the familiar cycle: new trends, new collections, new pieces and I wondered why people instantly recognised that I wasn’t French (before I even opened my mouth). But here, style isn’t a constant reinvention. It’s a refinement. French women don’t accumulate; they curate. They wear fewer pieces but wear them better.
French women don’t dress to impress others; they dress to feel like the best, most effortless version of themselves. It’s a small but powerful shift in mindset, and it changed the way I approached my own wardrobe and my work as a Personal Stylist.
I learned that getting dressed begins long before you choose an outfit. It starts with understanding yourself: your shape, your lifestyle, your true preferences, and the silhouettes that make you feel quietly confident. It’s why French style feels so timeless — it’s rooted in self-awareness rather than constant change.
Over the years, I’ve also noticed that French women build wardrobes the way they build friendships: slowly, selectively, intentionally. A beautifully cut blazer that lasts a decade. A favourite pair of jeans worn until they soften perfectly. A scarf that becomes part of your signature look. Nothing rushed. Nothing disposable. Nothing showy. Just pieces that work hard, feel good, and tell your story without shouting.
Wardrobes are curated, not crammed. Scarves are chosen with the same care as coats. A well-cut jacket is an investment, not an indulgence. There is an elegance in restraint. A blazer that fits perfectly is worth ten that don’t. A silk scarf tied effortlessly can lift an entire look. Neutrals aren’t boring — they’re intentional. The wardrobe becomes a personal statement, each piece chosen with care.
True style whispers. It builds slowly, through choices that feel like you rather than choices you think you should make. And perhaps most importantly, style isn’t something you chase — it’s something you cultivate.
But perhaps the greatest of the Style life lessons from living in France is this:
Style is the art of editing.
- Editing what no longer fits.
- Editing what never felt right.
- Editing out the pieces you’ve outgrown.
And with that editing comes confidence — a quiet certainty that you don’t need to impress, perform, or prove anything. You simply need to show up as yourself.
That philosophy became the backbone of my work as a stylist and continues to shape how I write today.
It’s also why I look forward to weaving more intergenerational style insights into The Velvet Runway, with Hannah, who brings a younger, modern perspective that complements my own
Style is a conversation between women, a thread connecting generations.
What Living in France Has Taught Me About Travel
Before France, I approached travel with the mindset many of us inherit: the pressure to see as much as possible in a limited time, maximise the itinerary, see everything, do everything, tick off all the boxes. But France has a different philosophy of travel — one rooted in presence rather than pace.
Travel here is about immersion, not accumulation. You don’t rush through a city; you absorb it. You stroll. You sit on terraces without checking your watch. The aim isn’t to “cover ground” but to understand a place — its food, its rhythm, its silences, its stories.
France has taught me that the heart of travel lies not in how far you go, but in how deeply you experience a place, and that the soul of a destination is rarely found in its monuments. It lives in the colours of a market, the way light hits a square at dusk, the way people greet each other, in the conversation with the café owner who knows everyone by name and in the rituals that shape daily life.
Travelling with family has deepened this even further — a reminder that familiarity and discovery can coexist, and that sharing a place with someone you love makes the experience even richer.
French living taught me to travel with intention, with curiosity, and with a deep respect for culture. And as I move into this next chapter of The Velvet Runway, I want to bring more of that reflective, meaningful style of travel writing back to the forefront.
True travel is less performative and more personal — an intimate connection and experience rather than a checklist.
What Living in France Has Taught Me About Lifestyle
Lifestyle in France is a lived philosophy, not an aesthetic. It isn’t about perfection — far from it. It’s about balance, presence, and pleasure in the everyday. It’s in the rituals: the fresh produce from the market, the morning stroll for bread, and the belief that life is meant to be savoured.
Meals are not rushed; they are shared moments. Weekends are for reconnecting, not catching up. Beauty is found in everyday gestures — arranging flowers, choosing fresh produce, allowing yourself the pleasure of a good baguette without guilt.
There is a natural emphasis on balance. Work matters, but so does rest. Productivity is important, but so is pausing long enough to enjoy life as it unfolds.
One of the life lessons I learned from living in France is to create pockets of pause in my day — a slow cup of coffee, a walk in nature, a chapter of a book read without multitasking. It taught me that home is not a backdrop but a sanctuary, and that small details — a candle lit in the evening, a vase of fresh flowers, a favourite mug — can elevate the everyday.
It’s why lifestyle content is becoming such an important part of The Velvet Runway — because lifestyle isn’t something we perform. It’s something we practice, and I want The Velvet Runway to feel like a calm space, a digital home where elegance meets intention, and where readers can breathe more deeply simply by being here.
French lifestyle is not slow living for the sake of slowness. It’s intentional living for the sake of quality — of experience, connection, and well-being.
What Living in France Has Taught Me About Beauty
The French approach to beauty is often described as effortless, but in truth it is deliberate, simple, and rooted in care. If style is the art of editing, beauty is the art of nurturing.
Beauty here isn’t something you chase. It’s something you care for and nurture, like a garden. Gently, consistently, without obsession.
French women don’t treat skincare as a battle; they treat it as self-respect. They prioritise nourishment over quick fixes, quality over quantity, natural radiance over elaborate routines. Makeup is used to enhance, not mask. Fragrance is part of one’s identity, not a trend. And ageing isn’t the enemy — neglect is!
Living in France taught me that beauty is a partnership with yourself. It’s about knowing your skin, embracing what suits you, investing in the essentials, and letting go of anything that feels like pressure rather than pleasure. It doesn’t demand a 12-step routine or a dramatic transformation. Instead, it begins with the skin: protecting it, nourishing it and respecting it.
Living in France encouraged me to embrace clean beauty, minimalist routines, and rituals grounded in nourishment rather than correction.
And as The Velvet Runway evolves, I want to bring more of this thoughtful, accessible, “less is more” beauty philosophy to the forefront and write more about conscious beauty and the products and practices that truly support well-being over time.
Beauty is less about trying to look younger and more about feeling well, aligned, and luminous from within.
What Living in France Has Taught Me About Ageing Gracefully
Perhaps the most important life lesson from living in France is the French relationship with ageing. In France, age carries authority, texture, depth. Women in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond are visible, stylish, respected — not expected to fade into the background. There is no frantic push to preserve youth at all costs.
Ageing here is viewed as an evolution, not a decline. You grow more comfortable in your skin. You refine what matters. You shed the noise. You stop apologising. You start living more freely. And you learn that the most attractive quality any woman can possess — at any age — is self-assurance.
Living in France taught me to approach ageing with softness rather than fear. Not with denial, but with grace. To care for myself because I value my body, not because I’m afraid of time. To see beauty as something lived, not something frozen. Ageing gracefully is not about resisting change, but about growing into yourself with softness and strength.
It’s making peace with the mirror, not battling it and it’s investing in health, rest, skincare, joy, laughter, time outdoors, and connections that matter.
It’s understanding that every chapter offers something the last one couldn’t — deeper self-knowledge, emotional steadiness, resilience, clarity, and yes, even beauty.
This perspective shifted how I think about my own ageing process. It helped me let go of pressure, comparison, and the impossible standards so many women face and to understand that each decade brings its own beauty and its own confidence.
Ageing well isn’t about clinging to youth — it’s about stepping into your fullest, most elegant self.
Why The Velvet Runway Is Evolving
All these life lessons from living in France — on style, travel, lifestyle, beauty, and ageing — shaped not only my personal life but the evolution of this blog.
I started The Velvet Runway as a fashion and travel space, with occasional lifestyle content woven in. Over the years, it has shifted with me, adapted alongside my interests, and grown through seasons of change. But now, entering its second decade, the blog is ready to reflect more clearly the life I actually live — and the life my readers tell me they crave.
Women want depth, connection, elegance, ease, and meaning. They want inspiration, yes, but also a sense of grounding — a place where style meets life, where beauty feels attainable, where travel feels enriching, and where ageing is approached with confidence and joy.
This evolution is not about becoming something new. It’s about becoming more aligned — more intentional, more thoughtful, more reflective of where I am now and where I’m going.
Introducing Hannah
I’m also delighted to be welcoming a new voice into this next chapter: my daughter, Hannah. Many of you already know her from her Parisian Style articles and she’ll now be contributing more intentionally to The Velvet Runway. Her perspective is fresh, modern, and beautifully complementary to mine.
She’ll be focusing especially on In and Around Paris, offering insights into cafés, exhibitions, hidden corners, and of course, French Style. She’ll also be joining me in our intergenerational travel content — such as our Vancouver trip – bringing a dynamic mix of viewpoints, experiences, and styles.
Her presence enriches this space, adding a vibrant, cosmopolitan layer to the grounded warmth that has always been at the heart of The Velvet Runway.
By the way, if you are looking to learn French, Hannah also offers video calls to help you. She is binational and bilingual and will meet you where you are at and not only teach you French but also about the French lifestyle. If you’re interested, just drop her an email.
Going Forward: A New Chapter for The Velvet Runway
As The Velvet Runway evolves, several new chapters will unfold — each one shaped by our lessons, experiences and travels.
My French Life
A deeper exploration of life in France — rituals, stories, places, reflections, style, and the cultural nuances that I have grown to understand and love. Hannah will also be sharing her perspective on French Life.
My Spanish Life
Three years ago, my family and I found a small haven in the south of Spain — a place that has since become a second home. We now spend three to four months a year there, travelling by car from northern France — always choosing a new route, discovering new villages, and uncovering hotels and landscapes that deserve to be shared. So, you can expect new landscapes, new experiences, new rhythms — and yes, new cultural references.
While this chapter is still unfolding, I’ll soon be sharing glimpses of My Spanish Life: Mediterranean style, wellness rituals, slow travel, and the vibrant beauty of Spanish culture.
Blogging Tips
After ten years of writing, learning, experimenting, and rebuilding, I’m excited to share practical, thoughtful blogging advice — not from a place of perfection (far from it!) , but from lived experience. What worked, what didn’t, and what I wish I’d known sooner.
The Velvet Runway Shop
I’m also excited to introduce The Velvet Runway Shop, a carefully curated digital space where you’ll find my favourite style, beauty, wellness, home, and travel recommendations.
Think of it as a living extension of the blog — a digital boutique that reflects everything The Velvet Runway stands for: timeless elegance, authenticity, and mindful living.
Some links are affiliate links, but every product is selected personally and used genuinely. I’ll be adding to the shop regularly, so if you love discovering new things, check back often — or add The Velvet Runway to your favourites.
Final Thoughts about Life Lessons from Living in France
If the last 30 years in France has taught me anything, it’s that life unfolds in chapters — some surprising, some challenging, all transformative. The Velvet Runway is entering a new one now, not with dramatic change, but with deeper clarity, purpose, and alignment.
Thank you for walking this path with me, for reading, for returning and for being part of this community. I hope that in this new chapter, The Velvet Runway continues to feel like a place of elegance, ease, inspiration, and meaning — a space where we grow (and age) together, gracefully and confidently.
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